New month, fresh start, let’s go.

I’mma really try to do better this month yall and post on a more consistent basis.

There seems to be a growing trend among my friends, coworkers and I, and I think it has to do with our age group.  Mind you, all of these people come from different walks of life, and are at different phases in their individual lives; some are married, single, some have kids, some dont, some are at the top of their career, some are in a transitional period with work and personal life, etc. But I am finding that the thread that all of us share, that we’re having to deal with the inevitable head-bumping with our mothers that comes when you reach a certain level of “adulthood.”

What I mean by this is that we’re starting to make decisions that our mothers don’t necessarily agree with and without their influence, and even in some cases without even letting them know.  AND our mothers are letting us know their opinions too, most of the time these opinions are unsolicited and are just rude and awkward.  The common theme I’m hearing from my peers is that this isn’t desired but necessary in order for them to be happy and I completely agree.  I mean, at some point your mother can’t always know every aspect of your life.  And while, they may not like it initially, they have to respect it.

I have a theory on this; I think that with our parent’s generation (the baby boomers) their value systems were completely different, obviously, but they placed the majority of their lives into their children and family.  So, when they’ve centered the last 20-30 or so years around their family and neglected themselves to a certain degree, its understandable how they could have a hard time letting go.

Now, I’m not a mother so I don’t presume to understand the dynamic between a mother and their children, nor do I understand how it feels to have to release your children into the world, only with the hopes that you truly did your best at raising them and they will be able to survive on their own.  What I am, is a daughter, with an enormous amount of respect for all mothers, everywhere but particularly my mother.  It’s a tough place to be in, but at the end of the day all I can do is to try to chose my own happiness over anyone else’s, including my mother!

Eggplant Parmesan

This is something I tried out last night and I must say it turned out pretty great! 🙂


  • 1 large eggplant, peeled and sliced
  • 2 cups breadcrumbs
  • 2 tbsp garlic powder
  • 1 tbsp chopped parsley
  • 1/2 tbsp chopped oregano leaves
  • 1/2 tbsp chopped basil leaves
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • flour for dredging
  • 2 eggs, beaten
  • 1/2 c water
  • 2 c grated mozzarella
  • 8 oz fresh mozzarella, sliced
  • 1 c shredded parmesan cheese
  • Red Sauce
  • cooked spaghetti
  • olive oil for frying, about 1/2 c

In three separate shallow dishes, add the breadcrumbs, flour and eggs along with the water.

For the breadcrumbs: add the garlic powder, parseley, oregano, basil and salt and pepper and combine.

Heat the olive oil in a heavy skillet over medium heat

Season the eggplant slices on each side with salt and pepper.

First, place them into the flour to coat, knocking off any excess.

Second, move them to the egg mixture; the flour gives the egg something to stick to.

Lastly, coat them in the breadcrumbs, again knocking off any excess.

Fry them in the olive oil until golden on both sides and drain.  Repeat these steps until All of the eggplant is done.

Preheat oven to 350°F

Brush baking dish with melted butter.  Then layer a spoon full of the red sauce on the bottom, followed by two of the eggplant slices and some of the shredded mozzarella.

Continue this for about 3 layers, then top with the rest of the cheese and the sliced mozzarella and parmesan.

Bake for about 30 mins until the cheese on top is done.  Let it settle for at least 10 mins before serving over the cooked spaghetti noodles.