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Looking back over this year, I think it’s safe to say that I’ve done a lot of changing…  Just wanted to share some things that I’ve learned (and some I already knew)  this year, in 2012 with you all.

Number 12:  Niggas really aint shit! Ok that’s not fair.  This particular knee-grow won’t shit.  And this applies for all people in general:  We all have the capacity within us to do good and bad; sometimes, if we’re less evolved developmentally, the selfish desire for self-preservation takes over no matter what the cost.  Then the next thing you know you’re finding somebody’s hoe phone down to da couch with a paid ‘escort’s’ number in it smh.  But no serious up, peoples is peoples.  Humans are fallible  and they will fail you.  So no one person should ever be your everything or even a majority in your life. Not saying this was the case for me, but in general, people will fail you, so don’t take it so personal if/when they do.

Number 11:  My family cray cray!  Like when I say, they off the chain…yeah… I mean like bat shit cray!  I know everybody’s family is nuts, but mine >>>>> lol!  When I tell you Mollie had done called down to my aunt house then they called my other aunt on three-way and had a plot to straight murk this knee-grow… Baye-by it was about to go down! Of course I aint know nothing about this til months later, but my first reaction was really, “Awwwwwwe they really love me!” lol!  Of course you know cognitively that your family loves you and all, but when it really counts when they are willing to go sooo far out of their way for you just to try to make you feel better, that’s love yall.  And that’s true of anyone.  Love is an action word, a verb by definition.  Saying that you love someone and knowing that you’re loved is not enough all the time.  But when you have someone that’s willing to sacrifice their own comfort (and in this case, freedom lol) just to try to make your life a little better- that’s love yall.  And it is not to be taken for granted.

Number 10: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.  Everything has its consequences yall.  As I found myself infirm to da hospital then to da house, I had a lot of time to think about things.  Mainly, how I got in that situation and how it could have been avoided.  I guess I’m getting old yall ( ._.)  Yup, I know I didn’t ask for it, but like it or not, it’s happening.  So bottom line, I can’t do things like I used to.  My body just isn’t as resilient as it used to be, so I have to take care of myself.  The consequences of me not taking care of myself or taking my health for granted led to me being infirm and needing surgery.  I don’t know if this could have been avoided, but I certainly know that moving forward I have to be more careful how I treat myself.

Number 9:  Be Careful with you Pray for.  Cuz u just might get it.  You never know how you’re gonna get it, so you have to be prepared for how and when your prayers are answered.  The Lord knows what’s best yall, this I know.  So hunty, when Mollie left the room for good…  I flatlined.  Like, literally I died a little inside.  I prayed for her to be healed, and sometimes healing comes through death.  It’s a harsh reality that we all must face one day.  I prayed for growth, peace, happiness, etc. and all those things have a price yall.  Everything has its price.  Now, I’m not saying that blatantly ma died because I prayed for those things.  But somehow, I do believe, that with the Lord knowing what’s best for all of us, I have to go through certain things in order to get the things that I want out of life.  It’s all a part of my struggle and my journey.

Stay tuned for Parts II and III yall!

Holiday Ham

By request… 😉


  • 1 spiral sliced half ham, (get the shank end, it’s more tender than the butt end)

For the glaze: 

  • 1 can of sliced pineapples, reserve the juice for later
  • 2 tbsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp ground cloves
  • 2 tsp salt
  • 2/3 c light brown sugar
  • 1 jar maraschino cherries, sliced
  • toothpicks

Cook the ham according to the instructions on the package.  This will vary depending on the size/weight of the ham.  Be sure to cook the ham covered in aluminum foil so it won’t dry out.

Meanwhile, to prepare the glaze mix the sugar, salt cinnamon and cloves in a small saucepan.  Add a little of the pineapple juice (like 6 oz or 2/3 c) to the mixture and heat it through.

Remove the ham from the stove with about 30 mins left for cooking.  Glaze the ham with the glaze mixture.  Arrange the pineapple rings on top of the ham and hold them in place with toothpicks.  Place the cherries in the center of the rings and hold them with toothpicks as well.

Bake the ham for an additional 30 mins to allow the fruit and glaze to caramelize.  You can also brush the ham with any remaining glaze after this time.  Allow to cool before serving.