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Number 4:  PRO-VIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   I’m a wit-ness!


Number 3:  Love is Transcendent; it transcends space and time. It’s like when you have a friend and you lose touch for a while, maybe even months or years but then you’re able to pick up right where you left off.  You don’t have to speak or even see someone to feel their love.  You don’t have to question it because it’s always assuring.  True love will transcend life and even death.  I have never felt my mother’s love more profoundly than after she departed her earthly life.  Even in great sadness and my deepest darkest hours, I feel that love and it keeps me.  Love has a way of doing that.

Number 2:  Most of this shit doesn’t even matter.  That bomb ass outfit you dropped a stack on to go out for that special occasion or whatever.  Or that plot that the bitches down to da job had to set you up ‘Dynasty’ style.  Or even that chick that caught an attitude with you over god knows what via text message.  Alla that shit just don’t matter at the end of the day.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  You know a bish loves to shop and rag down and get clean and step out.  And while I understand bitches be trippin at work or in life in general, shit just don’t matter.  Cuz at the end of the day, only what you do to glorify your god and endorse your legacy and maintain your own health and well being is important.  Most of the shit we find ourselves stressing over don’t eem matter.  It’s tough cuz we’re all human (myself included), but if we could all get a better understanding of this, then I suspect life would get a little easier.  It doesn’t matter that somebody pissed you off cuz they were being a bitch; it only matters how you respond and how you treat them in spite of.  People may come and go, material things fade, but how you treat others, how you make them feel, the lasting impression you leave on this Earf long after you’re gone is what really matters.

Number 1:  All you need is love.  No, serious up for real tho, you do.  You need love for yourself as well as love for others.  And I”m not talmbout that superficis “1-4-3” Musiq Soulchild bullshit that’s finding itself onto my instagram, twitter and facebook pages either.  I’m talmbout true, unconditional love.  Love that doesn’t have a set of requirements or preclude anyone or anything from being in its presence.  Remember, love is transcendent and the universal language that everybody speaks.   I feel like nowadays most of the things I see happening locally and globally are the result of some serious deficits in unconditional that we seem to be suffering from.  Chial folks is goin bat shit cray shooting up peoples places and things and people is arguing about the fiscal cliff and suicides and objectification and “I’m right and you’re wrong”…its all just plain old pain.  When people don’t feel they are given unconditional love at some point or another they experience pain, whether it manifests itself in low self-esteem, self harm, anger, depression, etc.  And one thing that I do know for certain is that pain will always find itself a way to be released yall, and it doesn’t care who or what gets in its path.  We will all have our peaks and valleys in life, that’s unavoidable.  But if you’ve never experienced unconditional love in some form from somebody, then how can you practice loving yourself in difficult times; even in those times when you don’t like yourself?  Remember, love is patient and love is kind.  When you can’t be kind to yourself, how can you genuinely be kind to others? Love is a choice that you make, day after day.  And some days its easier than others.  And I will be the first to admit that it’s not always so easy for me, but it’s oh so necessary.    It’s hard, but I have to keep working at it.  Cuz if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gon love somebody else?  😉

So there you have it.  These are just some of the major themes from the past year that I felt like sharing.  I don’t believe in making resolutions, but rather I’mma just try to keep doing a little better everyday.  Happy New Year yall!  In the words of someone I admire, “Good Luck, and Don’t Fuck it Up!”



Lobster Mac & Cheese


  • 1 lb macaroni, corkscrew or pene pasta
  • 2 c heavy cream
  • 2 c milk
  • 1 stick unsalted butter
  • 1/4 c flour
  • 6 c shredded cheese; any combination of gruyere, gouda, or white cheddar
  •  1/2 sweet onion, very finely diced
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced
  • pinch of cayenne pepper
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • 1 to 2 lbs cooked lobster meat, roughly chopped

Preheat oven to 375°F

Cook the pasta al dente according to the instructions on the box, using salted and oiled water.  Drain and reserve for later.

In a large sauce pot over medium heat, melt the butter and add the onion and garlic.  Cook for about 5 mins being sure not to burn the garlic.  Add the flour to create a roux for the cheese sauce and add the cayenne, salt and pepper.  Cook for about another 5 mins until a paste starts to form.  Then add the milk and heavy cream.  and stir continuously being sure not to bring it to a boil.

Reduce the heat to low and add the cheese in parts, whisking constantly to incorporate it into the sauce.  Once all the cheese is combined, stir in the lobster meat and cooked pasta.

Transfer to a casserole dish and bake for about 30 mins until the noodles begin to brown on top.  Allow to settle before serving.