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I have been summoned yall!  One of my dearest friends has commissioned me to “plan” her 30th birthday celebration! Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The theme, you ask?

I know right!!!

And yall know what that means… it’s LaQueisha tahm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Girrrrrrrrrrrrrl LaQuee-Quee is abt to turn it eowt! Yall not ready.

For those of you who don’t know, LaQueisha the part of my identity who likes to indulge in hoodrat like activity from time to time…LaQueisha is a honey badger.

See, me and my crew aint really ’bout dat life’ and I’ll be the first to say it.  We’re educated women, many of us with husbands and families.  But from time to time, we like to indulge in the ways of the ratchet.

Let me put yall up on some game and tell you abt an emerging breed of female: The Sophistiratchet. 


Just thought I’d put that out there for yall to marinate on.  But back to the issue at hand: my friend’s ratchet birthday activities.

I won’t mention exactly what I think we’re gonna do; partly because I’m indecisive (yikes!) but mainly because I cannot have these activities documented.  Yup, I plan on getting just that ratchet.  She’s long overdue, and hell I know I am.  So, with that being said, I just thought I’d bring to yalls attention a lesson that I’ve been preaching for a while now, but been finding it kind or hard to practice myself; self care.

It’s ok to let loose yall.  Hell it’s recommended, no mandated by sweet alabaster baby jesus that we do so.  It’s ok to be a grown up but it’s also important that we don’t get so above ourselves that we forget how to have fun.  Pure unadulterated mindless fun- as long as you don’t hurt nobody, including yourself. I think God made all sorts of people on this earf and we’re all here for a reason, even stoopid ghetto hood people.  Yes, we can learn a thing or two from them.  That type of carefree reckless abandon they practice in all aspects of their daily lives can be good for us ‘grown-ups’ every now and then.  Everything in moderation, right?

Carrot Cake

In honor of Starkisha’s big day! I know it’s her favorite! 🙂


  • 2 c grated carrots (not shredded, grated!!!) 
  • 2 c all purpose flour
  • 2 c sugar
  • 2 tsp baking soda
  • 2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp nutmet
  • 1/2 tsp cloves
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 4 eggs
  • 1 1/2 c oil
  • 1 1/2 c chopped Pecans (optional)
  • Cream Cheese Frosting

Preheat oven to 350°F.

Combine the dry ingredients (flour, baking soda, cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves, salt and sugar)  in a large bowl and set aside

Whisk in the eggs and the oil either by hand or using an electric mixer, being careful not to over-mix the batter.

Distribute the batter evenly into 2 or 3 greased and floured cake pans and bake until done, for about 20-30 mins.  Allow to cool before frosting.

Note: you can add pecans to the batter if you’d like, but I usually add them to the frosting.