Cookin' n Heels

“I’ll always love my mama, she’s my favorite girl.” Y’all know that song by The Intruders right? And may I add of all the mama songs out there it’s my favorite. Sorry but I never got with the Boyz II Men song and don’t @ me ! Today many of us are celebrating our favorite girls, the ones that brought us in this world , our mamas! And not just celebrating our mothers, but our grandmas, step moms, play moms, aunties, big sis …hell for me I celebrate all the women who have made me into the phenomenal woman I am today. They all had a hand in shaping me and I celebrate them every year because they mean so much to me. My mom was a single mom, and my grandma, great grandma , and aunties all played a pivotal role in my sister and I ‘s upbringing. I can’t thank them enough, one day isn’t enough to celebrate all they’ve done for me and all they’ve continued to do for me. I’m a strong woman because strong women raised me!!

While this day is all about celebrating our moms, this day can also be hard for so many people. Those who have strained relationships with their moms, women who struggle with infertility and/or lost of a child, and those who have lost their moms. This weekend isn’t so happy for those who struggle with these situations. Mother’s Day is hard. And to those that say time heals all wounds I call bullshit. Grief is hard. It doesn’t go away. We all grieve differently but when it comes down to it grief is a big bitch! It hits you like a ton of bricks sometimes and I’m here to say it’s ok not to be ok! Two very important people in my life lost their moms at a young age. I’m very honest and I’ll say sometimes I don’t know the words to say. But what I can do is empathize and be aware of their feelings. So I’m asking you to do the same. No I’m not here to rain on your parade, I just want folks to be aware that some days just aren’t so damn happy. So if you are struggling with grief and loss I’m here for you. Virtual hugs. If I could I would even bake you a cake. And if you’re reading this and you have a friend or family member that is missing their mom , think before you speak. Or how about asking is there anything you can do? Maybe they need a home cook meal, a dessert, someone to talk to, or even just to be left alone today. Yes remember people have boundaries it’s not all about you ! For those of you who are missing your mom do what’s best for YOU on this day. Self care is also best! Chile, you owe no one anything but I am sending more virtual hugs.

Lastly, I want to take the time to celebrate two special women whom I’ve never met, but I feel I know them. Mollie Marable and Annie Massenburg. Two remarkable women who raised two people that I love very very much. You are both loved by so many and missed so much. I want you to know I got them! And Ms. Annie I’m definitely looking after your boys! *kisses to the sky*

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TODAY!!!! DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD!!! YA HEARD ME!!!